There isn't an exact 'right' amount of pushing. But if you're feeling inconsistent? It's probably because you're being sensitive to your child's needs and responding to what they can actually handle at different times. Consistency is overrated - especially when you're helping a neurodivergent child navigate a world that wasn't designed for them.

Your child's anxiety isn't a character flaw to be fixed. It's often their nervous system's way of saying 'this world doesn't quite fit me.' And when we help the world fit better? The anxiety often takes care of itself.